MATRESCENCE: HOW IT’S SHAPING MOTHERHOOD AND HELPING US FEEL 'NORMAL'
By Nicole Fuge
Motherhood is often described as a journey, but for many, it’s more like a transformational experience—one that doesn’t always fit into the traditional narratives. This is where the term matrescence comes in. In recent years, matrescence has been gaining traction, providing a more nuanced understanding of the transition into motherhood, one that validates and normalises the complexities of the experience.
What is Matrescence?
Matrescence refers to the process of becoming a mother, encompassing not only the physical changes but also the emotional, psychological, and social transformations that occur. The term, coined in the 1970s by anthropologist Dana Raphael, draws a parallel to adolescence—both are periods of profound change, self-discovery, and redefinition. Just like adolescence, matrescence is a phase of life where identity, relationships, and self-worth are reshaped.
While the term is not new, it is gaining more recognition as an essential part of the conversation around motherhood. Traditionally, society has viewed motherhood through a narrow lens, often focusing on the image of the perfect mother who effortlessly balances all aspects of family life. Matrescence challenges this ideal and provides a more authentic framework for understanding the transformation new mothers undergo.
How Matrescence Helps Modern Mothers Feel More 'Normal'
Recognising the identity shift
One of the key aspects of matrescence is the recognition that becoming a mother is an identity shift, not just a physical event. Mothers undergo emotional and psychological growth, much like teenagers, as they redefine who they are in relation to their child, their partner, and the world around them. Understanding this shift through the lens of matrescence helps mothers recognise that their struggles, from self-doubt to identity confusion, are a natural part of this transition.
Normalising the challenges of motherhood
Matrescence shines a light on the struggles that often go unspoken in traditional motherhood narratives. The exhaustion, the feelings of loss, the uncertainty—these are all a part of the matrescence process. With this term, modern mothers are beginning to feel less isolated in their experiences. The normalising of these challenges allows mothers to validate their emotions and seek help without feeling inadequate or overwhelmed by unrealistic expectations.
Promoting a balanced perspective on change
Matrescence reframes the conversation around motherhood by acknowledging both the joyful and difficult aspects of becoming a mother. It isn’t just about the joy of a new baby; it’s also about navigating the overwhelming adjustments, the change in relationships, and the evolution of self. When mothers see that this period is one of transformation, rather than just a role they assume, it encourages self-compassion and patience.
Shifting the narrative of 'perfect motherhood'
The societal ideal of the "perfect" mother—someone who is always happy, always nurturing, and always able to balance family life with personal fulfilment—is impossible to live up to. Matrescence challenges this by acknowledging that motherhood is messy, complex, and unique to every woman. Embracing matrescence gives mothers permission to redefine what being a good mother looks like and to release the pressure to meet unrealistic expectations.
Opening conversations about mental health
Mental health is an important component of matrescence, as mothers often experience a range of emotions, from joy to anxiety, that can sometimes lead to postpartum depression or anxiety. By understanding that matrescence is a process, mothers may feel more empowered to discuss their mental health and seek support when needed. The normalisation of this aspect of motherhood helps reduce stigma and encourages more open, honest conversations.
Matrescence in the Modern World
As more women embrace the term matrescence, it is slowly but surely helping reshape how we view motherhood in the modern world. The rise of online communities, social media discussions, and books focusing on matrescence has helped mothers feel seen, heard, and supported. The conversation is evolving, and with it, the realisation that becoming a mother is not just a one-time event but a complex, ongoing transformation.
For modern mothers, matrescence offers a new language to describe their experiences and challenges. It encourages them to embrace their journey with more understanding, patience, and self love. In turn, this growing awareness is making the transition into motherhood feel less isolating and more "normal," as mothers everywhere find strength in knowing they’re not alone in their struggles and triumphs.
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