FROM SUPERMUM TO SACRED FEMININE
By Sarah Cremona
In a world that celebrates output over intuition, productivity over presence, and logic over ancient wisdom,it’s no wonder so many mothers feel stretched thin, disconnected, and numb to their own needs. We’ve become experts at doing; lists, logistics, and loops of endless responsibility.
And for a while, this masculine energy of structure, strategy and control serves us. It carries us through sleepless nights of nurturing, work deadlines, after-school sports, and full calendars. But eventually, it costs us something sacred: our sense of self.
For years, I wore my supermum masculine cape like a badge of honour.
Hyper-productive, results-focused and always on.
Structure was my comfort.
Control gave me a sense of power.
Being busy felt safe.
And it worked… until it didn’t.
Masculine energy helped me survive early motherhood. But it also hardened me.
I was so disconnected from my body’s whispers.
I ignored my intuitive nudges. I poured out for everyone else whilst I remained a leaky bucket. I could juggle all the balls in the air (so I thought) but I didn’t value myself enough to be one of those balls.
And eventually, I snapped. In an explosive, soul-cracking way.
The kind of moment that will live rent-free in my mind forever. Not because it was dramatic (well it was a little), but it was result of denial and suppression of the feminine.
It was the, “I can’t keep doing this,” moment. The breaking point so many high-functioning mothers eventually reach when there’s nothing left to give, and we end up appearing in a professionals inbox screaming, “Help me. I’m broken”.
But that moment became the beginning of something liberating for me. A pathway to return to the sacred feminine.
For a long time, I misunderstood feminine energy and therefore made up stories that kept my masculine in charge. But true feminine energy; is a way of being.
She is intuitive. She is cyclical. She nurtures, flows and receives. She creates not to meet a goal, but for creations sake because something within her come alive when she does. She is a channel for light and love, and when she allows herself to be still or receive, in those moments nothing else matters.
But for many mothers, the feminine doesn’t feel safe.
We’ve been taught to see softness as weakness, stillness as unproductive, and anything intuitive—like incense, emotions, crystals or embodiment—as woo woo or witchy. We’ve learned to measure our worth by what we do, not who we are. So we stay in our heads, disconnected from our bodies and detached from the deeper truth within us.
But the feminine calls us inward. She invites us to soften, to feel, to trust, to surrender control. She asks us to receive. And for those of us who’ve learned that safety lives in achievement and control, this can feel terrifying.
This is where the deeper work begins.
And the truth is, we don’t need to abandon our masculine energy, we just need to redefine its role. The masculine becomes the foundation of the house; steady, structured, strong. The feminine is the home inside; warm, soulful, magnetic.
She’s the feeling you get when you walk in the door. She brings life, beauty, depth. They’re not in opposition, they’re in partnership.
Together, they bring us back to wholeness.
So, with all of my wisdom as of today, if I were to meet my younger self again, this is what I would tell her.
“Darling, you’re doing so much. You’ve mastered the art of achieving, managing, and holding it all together. But you’ve forgotten what it feels like to be held yourself.
Being is just as powerful as doing.
You think rest is something you have to earn. You wear productivity like armour. You call yourself strong, but I see how much you’re silently carrying.
It’s okay to ask for help, slow down and be taken care of too.
And if you ever arrive at your breaking point again; tired, disconnected, numb… you’re not broken. You’re just exhausted from surviving on systems that were never designed to honour your wholeness.”
If I were beginning again, choosing to intentionally honour the feminine, I’d start gently in these ways:
Learn to build inner safety first.
Give myself permission to slow down.
Allow myself to feel deeply & express without suppression.
Untangle guilt from rest.
Consciously choose compassion every day.
Explore my sensuality & what turns me on.
Reconnect with presence & purpose.
Become intentional with who has access to my energy.
Craft rituals that honour my energy & menstrual cycle.
Release expectations—my own or others’.
Listen to my body instead of pushing through.
Begin to value being as much as doing.
Because the feminine doesn’t respond to pressure.
She doesn’t rise through hustle. She blooms when witnessed. When honoured.
And yes, it will feel uncomfortable to try these on. To pause. To soften.
But sit in that space anyway.
Stay with yourself. Place your hand over your heart and breathe.
Turn toward the discomfort with compassion, like you would turn towards a child.
Because that discomfort is the doorway home.
We are not machines.
We are women: cyclical, emotional, seasonal, sensual.
Yet we’ve been conditioned to override our natural rhythms.
We push through pain, bleed in silence (often linked with shame), and keep soldiering on, because slowing down feels unsafe in a world that feels so fast paced.
But this is where the shift begins. Not in grand declarations, but in quiet remembrance. In tiny 1% shifts where we choose something else. When we honour our sacred feminine, we return to the buried parts of ourselves.
We come back to wholeness. Not the version shaped to belong or prove, but the version that simply is.
Worthy… by existence alone.
And to me, that is sacred in itself.
Yes, surrender may feel edgy; but the breakdown often comes before the breakthrough.
You were never meant to do it all.
You were made to become all of you.
So put down the cape.
And take a long, slow exhale, mumma.
THE WOMAN BEHIND THE WORDS
Sarah Cremona is the founder of The Mumma Nest, where she supports high-functioning mothers through trauma-informed life coaching, emotional healing, and leadership mentoring. Sarah helps women build resilience, confidence and clarity at home, at work, and within themselves. Connect with her @the_mumma_nest.
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